Mysteries of the New Year
I teeter on the brink of endings: some anticipated, some resisted, some inevitable, some surprising, Most painful; and the mystery of...
Take It Easy For The New Year
New Year’s resolutions are a part of the American consciousness. It seems to be a requirement that you start the year right by making...
Self Compassion: The Antidote to Shame
Chief Inspector Gamache is the main character in Louise Penny’s Three Pines book series. He is an honest man with integrity and a desire...
The Shame Cycle: What It Is and How to Step Off of It!
Sue had a bad day. She missed an important deadline at work on a project that was important to her job. This came at the same time as she...
How Does Shame Develop?
We’ve established that shame can be both a powerful motivator while also operating without the effort of conscious thought. Something...
What Is Shame?
Jack came into the office feeling deep and painful shame. “I made so many stupid decisions,” he told me. “I hurt everyone I love and who...
The Scorpion, the Turtle and a Parable of Trust
Most of us have heard the story of the scorpion and the turtle. It can illustrate many points and teach a number of lessons. I see it as...
Living by Old Rules: Are You On This List?
Carl grew up with a mother who raged. If his dad was late getting home, his mother would go into a rage. If he spilled something on the...
40 Little Things
The little things we overlook build up to the big things that can change, or even derail, the plans we have for our lives. Last week, we...
The Importance of the Small Things
“The little things are infinitely the most important.” – Arthur Conan Doyle “It’s just a small scrape, I’ll take care of it later,” she...