Six Principles of Love: Building on an Expert's Work
“To love without knowing how to love wounds the person we love.” --Thich Nhat Hanh Last week, I quoted Erich Fromm who wrote an important...
Seven Words For Love
“Thus, the ultimate choice for a man [woman], in as much as he is driven to transcend himself, is to create or to destroy, to love or to...
Intimacy: Is Real
Human beings have an inborn need for closeness. As infants, a human will not survive without caretakers, and we need them for a longer...
Intensity: Is it Real?
David is six months into a new job. He is making more money than ever before, but he is working constantly. There is conflict with his...
Love And Conflict
To be human is to love. We love our parents, whether we want to or not. We love our children if we have them. We love our friends, our...
Transforming the Drama Triangle
Each of us has created or been drawn into a Drama Triangle many times over the course of our lives. It happens on an unconscious level to...
Valentine's Day: A Call to Love Yourself
I find the time surrounding Valentine's to be a difficult one for many people. Those who are in relationships have expectations which do...
Relationships and Triangles
Chris, Andy and Liam have been friends for years. Andy borrowed Chris’s car and had a fender bender. The following week when the three of...
PART 2: How You Can Use Your Pain to Create Growth
Last week, we tackled a bitter truth that's also a strange dichotomy: Pain is an essential part of humanity, and suffering is part of the...
Entitlement, the Road to Dissatisfaction
“I don’t understand why life is so hard for me. It seems to me that I have suffered enough. My mother tried to help me but was weak and...