Mysteries of the New Year
I teeter on the brink of endings: some anticipated, some resisted, some inevitable, some surprising, Most painful; and the mystery of...
Take It Easy For The New Year
New Year’s resolutions are a part of the American consciousness. It seems to be a requirement that you start the year right by making...
You Don’t Have to Be Disappointed During the Holidays
Carlos went for his yearly physical and the phlebotomist asked, “Are you ready for Christmas?” This was a particularly difficult question...
Self Compassion: The Antidote to Shame
Chief Inspector Gamache is the main character in Louise Penny’s Three Pines book series. He is an honest man with integrity and a desire...
The Shame Cycle: What It Is and How to Step Off of It!
Sue had a bad day. She missed an important deadline at work on a project that was important to her job. This came at the same time as she...
How Does Shame Develop?
We’ve established that shame can be both a powerful motivator while also operating without the effort of conscious thought. Something...
What Is Shame?
Jack came into the office feeling deep and painful shame. “I made so many stupid decisions,” he told me. “I hurt everyone I love and who...
Resilience Week: What Is Toxic Stress and How to Deal With It
RESILIENCE WEEK is a first-of-its-kind North Carolina engagement campaign in partnership with UNC-TV, Prevent Child Abuse North Carolina,...
The Scorpion, the Turtle and a Parable of Trust
Most of us have heard the story of the scorpion and the turtle. It can illustrate many points and teach a number of lessons. I see it as...
Criticism
You can’t please everyone all the time, but that doesn’t stop most of us from trying. When we hear the criticism that comes from not...